Outfit: Trying to Care



I don’t really like the idea of New Year’s resolutions.  Telling yourself that you’re going to start making a change on some arbitrary day doesn’t seem like a good way to set yourself up for success, you know?  Like, if you really wanted to stop eating sugar, you’d do it now, not on January 1. (Or never, if you’re me and have a profound sugar addiction.)

That being said, there is something to taking a step back and looking over the things in your life that you want to improve.  Maybe you want to volunteer more, or take on a new hobby.  Me?  Well, I just want to care about other people.

I spend a lot of time in my own little bubble.  I do what want to do, when I want to.  And if something gets in my way, I just hope someone will take care of things for me.  As much as I hate to admit it, I’m more than a little spoiled.

But I don’t want to be like that anymore.  I hate that I’m like that.  This year, I want to be different; I want to spend more of my time looking out for other people–having more conversations, baking more cookies, running more errands, helping out.  I want to be there for someone besides me.  I’m good at getting Poptarts for myself when I’m hungry, but what about picking up dinner for my parents?  I write in my journal for hours, but what about having a heart-to-heart with a friend?

Just let me finish this Poptart and I’ll be right over.

14 thoughts on “Outfit: Trying to Care”

  1. I am so not one for resolutions either. My first job was at a gym, and I remember seeing the hoards of people coming in January 1st, and just thinking “meh, you won’t even make it to February”, they didn’t. It made me really cynical about resolutions, you don’t need a day to tell you when to make a change, just do it!

    That said, this year I also broke down and decided to do one! I decided to try and counter every negative remark, with something positive about the same thing I was complaining about.

    I really love your’s too! I think it’s so easy to get wrapped up in ourselves, and what we want to do. It’s really great to strive to consider other people, and be intentional about spending time with them!


    1. That is such a good idea! I think you’re setting yourself up for a really good year by doing that. We can all use a little more positivity in our lives 🙂

      And thank you! So far I’m not exactly great at it, but hopefully as the year progresses it’ll be easier to get out of my little bubble.


  2. It’s not that I particularly like resolutions either, but I like the idea of setting up a goal for the year and using that year to accomplish it. I pick one big thing every year, like saying yes more or writing the first draft of my novel, and use the whole year to accomplish it, and then at the end of the year I can choose to keep doing it or move onto the next goal. Some goals turn into habits and that’s the best, like when I just wanted to drink more water every day and now I crave water on a daily basis. I look at resolutions as a way to accomplish something you already want to accomplish. I hope that makes sense haha!


    1. It does! I didn’t think of it like that before, but that’s a great way to approach it. It’s subtle, but it seems like there’s a difference between “This year I’m going to do X” and “I’m going to give myself a year to accomplish X.”


  3. Before I say anything about the writing, I feel like I should say something about the outfit: “J’adore!”
    Your long-sleeve and skirt combo is always a winner. They just look so perfect on you!
    Plus, that braid is a winner!

    Now, on to the content. First and foremost, I’ve wanted to ask this question for so long but I never remembered to so here goes: are you still quitting sugar? I saw you have a few sugar withdrawals now and then and starting to get a little worried.
    Second of all, I love that resolution so much—mainly because it creates the excuse for me to start talking to you more often. I would actually really like that, to be honest 😉
    And that’s absolutely right what you said about NY resolutions. If you want to do something, you do it now. But I do feel like my resolutions reflect everything I’ve learnt from the past year, thus appearing at the most opportune time. Also, I prefer to keep them conceptual to open myself to later interpretation of what I actually meant.

    Happy New Year, Devinne!

    Alive as Always


    1. Thanks! Although I’d be lying if I didn’t mention that the outfit was very, very inspired by A Clothes Horse!

      As for the sugar thing–right now I’m just cutting down on sweets. When I tried to quit sugar in the past, I cut out almost all carbs. That made me crazy, so these days I’m still letting myself have a dessert every now and then. Keeps me sane. 😉

      Feel free to talk to me as much as you want! I’m hoping to get more active in commenting/interacting in the blog world this year, so thank you for being so welcoming.

      You have a unique approach to resolutions, and I like that. It’s a perspective I haven’t thought of before, but maybe I can incorporate that into my year as well.


  4. First – you are killing it with this outfit! I love those tights!!

    I’m not one for making new years resolutions but I did make a few goals for this year. I think your goal is a really great one! I can definitely be selfish at times but for so long I was only thinking about other people and not taking care of myself. It’s exhausting but now I think I’ve found a balance on being selfish when I need to be and helping out other people.
    I hope you had a nice holiday!

    Lee – leethrifts.com


    1. Thanks! I’d been trying to find a pair like that for ages, and I’m glad I finally tracked ’em down.

      I did see your goals for next year (and I’ll be commenting in more depth on your blog later), and I really like them! It looks to me like you have a literary theme going on. I’m hoping to do a little more reading and writing this year as well.

      And about finding that balance–that’s something that worries me. My mom is on the opposite end from me, where all she does is take care of other people. I wonder how I’ll know when it’s right?


  5. I love that the pattern on your tights kind of matches the embroidery on the blouse. I feel similarly about resolutions, but I do like the idea of setting goals for myself, without beating myself up if I don’t reach them. I like your idea of trying to do thoughtful things for other people– it’s a good thing to think about doing more often. Happy New Year!


    1. Thanks! I saw an outfit on A Clothes Horse not long ago that had something similar going on, so I wanted to try it!

      I think it’s a really good idea to have something to aim for in a year, and I’m rethinking the way I see NY resolutions! I hope your year is off to a great start 🙂


  6. This is such a lovely goal to set. So many resolutions are about losing weight, or gaining followers, or something wholly self-regarding, but this is all about your relationships with others. (I bet you don’t have nearly as far to go as you think, either. I can’t tell you how much that ‘are you ok?’ text a few weeks back meant to me <3. Not everybody would reach out!).

    I made a whole laundry list of New Year's resolutions this year, but I've always been a fan of making lists, and I'm hoping that the fact that I put them on the internet motivates me to keep them!

    Happy happy 2017 to you!


    1. I’m glad you like my goal! Honestly, it’s something I’ve worried about for a long time, and I figured I really needed to do something about it. Sometimes I feel like I’m just so out of touch with everyone!

      The more you and others have told me about how they go about making resolutions, the more I like them! It’s great that this time of year is a starting line for you–good luck with your resolutions!


    1. Thank you! I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who needs to get out of her bubble 🙂 I hope your year is off to a great start!


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