Extras, Outfits

Outfit: Just The Same But Brand New




It seems like lots of bloggers have been taking breaks lately.  It makes sense–the holidays can leave you exhausted and yearning for some relaxation.  And it’s a whole new year, the perfect time to reflect on what you’re going to make of the next twelve months.

Like many of you, I spent a few weeks taking stock, which of course includes Mox and Socks.  Ever since I started this blog, something seemed off.  Not the photography; I’ve learned to become a decent photographer in the last two years.  Not the subject matter; I’m a good writer.  No, it was something more fundamental–the clothes.

We as style bloggers struggle more with the identity of our clothes than anyone else.  Our clothes mean more because we want them to mean more.  Sometimes it’s difficult to figure out what exactly we want to say, and I’ve had that problem for years.

I never really understood why I didn’t like most of my outfits.  I had all kinds of rules governing how I chose my clothes, and I thought those rules would make me happy.  When they didn’t, I started to copy other people, trying to capture whatever it was that made their outfits stand out.

It took me ages, but I learned some key points that helped me figure out what my style was.  A Clothes Horse’s outfits won’t look right on me because they’re not me.  But this outfit?  She’d never wear it, but it feels exactly right on my body.

In a few days, I’ll recap some of the things I learned in putting together a new wardrobe for myself.  I hope that if you’re having problems with the things in your closet, I can help.

I’ve collaborated with thredUP again, and that site has been invaluable in helping me rebuild and refine my closet.  They had all of the basics I needed plus lots of unusual statement pieces, like this beaded cardigan.  (Side note: that thing is so heavy that my back still hurts–worth it!)  thredUP is literally the only company I can think of that offers (by definition) ethically-sourced petite clothing, so I feel really good about adding to my closet with the things I’ve found there, plus I know they’re going to fit me.

If you’ve never shopped with thredUP before, I have a little goody for you.  You can get 50% off your first-time purchase on their selection of Free People clothing using the code FREEPEOPLE50.  It’s good for up to $50 off!  So go on, check it out!


14 thoughts on “Outfit: Just The Same But Brand New”

    1. Haha thanks! I got them on ModCloth–unfortunately, it looks like they sold out of this color, but they have them in pewter.


  1. This is such a huge thing! For years I struggled with how I wanted to dress, and how I actually dress. I ended up with clothes in my closet that I never touched, and didn’t represent me at all! It wasn’t until the last couple years that I started purging things, and really asking myself when I buy something new “will I actually reach for this any day of the week?”. It’s more than just deciding to finally buy clothes you will wear, its also giving up the persona that you want to emulate, and realizing that all you can be is you, and that’s ok!

    In short, I am so glad that you addressed this. It’s a real struggle that I think especially affects people who express themselves through their clothing.



    1. I totally hear you on everything you said! When I took the time to go through my closet, there was just so much stuff that I never, ever wore. Or I’d wear them and not feel quite right. There’s something so freeing about finally unearthing your true style.

      I always love your outfits, and I’m glad to know that you’re wearing the things that make you feel best and ring true to you.


  2. This post really struck a chord with me. All my adult life clothes have been important to me. Although I’ve generally worn outfits that I liked, on reflection I can see that many of them weren’t really ‘me’.

    Only in the past year or so have I found myself on a journey to work out how to really express who I am through what I wear, and I’ve rather surprised myself with the conclusions I’ve come to (dresses really suit me, who would have thought it!) and the clothing choices I now make. It’s refreshing, it’s liberating, it’s satisfying, to finally be dressing for myself alone, but also dressing to tell the world about something about myself too. It sounds like you’re having the same revelation!

    I’m really interested to read your follow-up post.


    1. I’m so glad you could relate! I completely understand what it’s like to not really feel like yourself in your own clothes, and I think it’s really great that you’ve taken the time to refine your style in a way that reflects who you are. You mentioned feeling liberated–in the last few weeks, I’ve had a sense of that as well. Anyway, I hope you enjoy the next post!


  3. I’m so glad to hear that you have found a style that really expresses “you”!
    I’m kind of in the same spot right now- a bit of a transition I guess. A few years ago I was really happy with my style, and while my life has changed a lot since then, my wardrobe hasn’t changed to really reflect who I am now and who I want to be.
    So, this is a very timely series of posts you are doing! I’m excited to see what your new style will look like.
    The Artyologist


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